Sunday, March 1, 2015

Unity Love Knot / True Lover's Knot In Your Wedding Ceremony

“Tying the Knot” in your wedding ceremony is another way 

 to symbolize your coming together as one.

The “true lovers knot” which is the strongest there is will 

not break, and will only become stronger when under 


The rope itself will break before the knot comes undone.

The two separate cords represent your past and lives 

before today.

As you intertwine your pieces, you are joining your two lives into one, representing the present.

The finished knot symbolizes your future.....

 Your two lives are now bound together as one....

For more ideas on optional ceremonies for your wedding, 

please visit my website, the options & info tab here 

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Paint Pouring Ritual During Your Wedding Ceremony -

One of the newest wedding ceremony traditions is Paint Pouring!  Every painting and every marriage begins with a blank canvas…

Paint Pouring set up at marriage ceremony site as guests are escorted to their seats.

Bride and groom add their two different colors to the canvas to symbolize their lives blending together. 

Bride and groom applying their paint to the canvas.

Bride and groom applying their paint to the canvas to create their unique painting.

Pouring their paint :)

The painting that you created together will symbolize your wedding day.

The finished painting.

"Work of Art" ready to be displayed in newlywed's home. 

Bride and Groom pouring their paint. 

Monday, September 9, 2013

Wine Ceremony during your Wedding -

Including an 'optional ceremony or tradition' into your wedding ceremony is a great way symbolize the joining of your lives in marriage. They add a 'visual effect'.  Your guests are more likely remember what they see.  One of my personal favorites is the wine ceremony..

Long ago, wine was revered as the blood of the earth.
When a bride and groom pledged themselves to each other, they drank wine from a single cup, signifying that they were becoming one blood, one family and one kin.
Cup-raising was an invitation to witness their oath and hold the persons to their words.

Wine is a symbol of abundance, joy and life. 

Your officiant can describe the properties in the wine that are symbolic of 'Life's Journey'.

Those who drink deeply from the "Cup of Life" with an open heart and willing spirit, invite the full range of challenges and experiences into their being.


May you find life’s joys heightened, it’s bitterness sweetened and all of life enriched.

A venue with a vineyard is the perfect place to include this ceremony.  Contact me for details.

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Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Wedding Ceremony Family Bible Signing

A Family Bible is a time-honored tradition.  It is handed down through a family and each successive generation records information about the family's history inside it. 

I was recently honored to officiate the wedding ceremony of a couple that wanted to include the signing of the Family Bible during  their wedding.
The bride's grandparents had given them (and all of their children and grandchildren) a Family Bible as a wedding gift.  They wanted to honor them by including them and the signing in their ceremony.

Officiant invites the grandparents to join us and sign the Family Bible.   (They had no idea this was being done, it was a complete surprise!) 

Wedding Officiant signs the Bible.

Bride signs her Family Bible as her grandmother and the groom observe.

Groom signs....

This is a wonderful way to pass on stories, family faith and traditions from one generation to the next.  

To see a complete list of all optional ceremonies and traditions that I am happy to include in your wedding ceremony (at no addional fee), please visit the 'Options and Info'  page ( my website: -   Thanks for stopping by!  

**These photos courtesy of Sarah Holder Photography in Greenville, SC 
**Ceremony location:  Mary's Cottage at Falls Park - Greenville, SC 

Monday, April 8, 2013

Tree Planting In Your Wedding Ceremony

A creative nature-inspired idea is to plant a tree together, adding soil (perhaps gathered from both of your hometowns) to a potted plant to symbolize your union.
You can transplant it to your yard after your wedding or when you purchase a home.

You will need a sapling, two containers of dirt, two trowels and a small watering can.

Your officiant can speak about building strong roots for the foundation of your marriage.

And as you provide sun, soil and water for your tree,

remember to nourish each other with words of encouragement, trust, and love. 

A special thank-you to Milan Morgan Photography and Augusta Manor in Greenville, SC for these images.  +Brenda M. Owen - Wedding Officiant Minister - 

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Love Letter on your Wedding Day -

Bride and Groom before your wedding day, write a love letter to each other.

The letters should describe the good qualities you find in one another, the reasons that you fell in love, for choosing to marry as well as your hopes and dreams for the future.

Seal your letter in individual envelopes and have your photographer take photos of you reading your letters.

These letters will always be a special memory, memento of you wedding day.  

Brenda Owen Wedding Officiant, Minister -

These photos courtesy Jon Torres ~

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Ring Bearer Ideas, Inspiration -

Who says you have to put your wedding rings on a pillow?  Not me! Following are some ideas you can incorporate into your wedding.  Let your imagination run free!

"Ring Protection Agent" 

Love birds nest dish.

Log Ring Dish perfect for a rustic or country wedding.

 Heart shaped ring box.

One of my brides made her ring box herself. 

Wedding Bloopers - How to Keep them from Happening to You! -

There is no such thing as a perfect wedding. . . and if there were, would you really want it?  Perfection is probably not your goal. No doubt this is a red-letter day in your life. You want it to be special. You want your family and; friends to celebrate with you and have a good time. However, little unexpected things happen. When you keep things in perspective, these don't have to ruin your day. Of course, you don't want major disruptions or distractions because of poor planning and; preparation. That's why you want to avoid pitfalls #'s 2-5.  Do this: On your wedding day, give yourself a good talking to and remind yourself what your wedding day is really all about.

f your wedding rehearsal is an exercise in frustration, you don't have much time to get over it! Likely your wedding is the next day. Do this: You can reduce the chances of problems at the wedding rehearsal in a couple of ways:  One, have a professional director if possible. At the least, you need a friend or family member with strong enough personality (without taking over your wedding wishes) to get people moving and to be there for the wedding to remind everyone what to do/when.  Two, know before going to your rehearsal exactly how you want your wedding to go. Rehearsals are not a time for working this out, but for practicing what you've already decided. This doesn't mean that you won't see something at your rehearsal that you want to change. But, if you go in with no plan, well-meaning friends & family may take over your wedding.

Pitfall #3: NO BACK-UP PLAN IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN IN YOUR WEDDING:  Children are precious in weddings and if you want them in yours, then certainly include them. However, for the sake of the children, have a back-up plan.
Even children who are outgoing have trouble sometimes when they see "all those people." You don't want the children to be embarrassed, frightened, and upset.
Do this: Increasing, couples have children (ring bearers, flower girls) come down the aisle and then immediately go sit with family on the front rows.
This way, they feel included in the wedding and; "get seen" but then are relieved from the pressure of the spotlight.
What if children are hesitant to come down the aisle by themselves? A possibility is to have them walk down with one of the attendants. What if a child won't stand still and; becomes a distraction? Have a family member who will come get the child and; take them to a seat.
Children's little mess-ups are cute, but quickly become a distraction to your ceremony.

Pitfall #4: USING RECORDED WEDDING MUSIC - This may be the most frequent goof-up I see at weddings. Invariably, the person doing the music can't find the on/off button, plays the wrong song at the wrong time, or abruptly ends the bride's processional music with a loud click of the off switch.
Do this: Have live wedding music if possible. It sounds better and; you don't have the problems mentioned above.  Or, hire a DJ.  I know some that will do the ‘ceremony music only’ for  $75 - $100
Recorded wedding songs can work nicely, but if you rehearse anything, make sure you rehearse the music; what songs when, how long they run, and when to fade them out.

Pitfall #5: AN INEXPERIENCED WEDDING CEREMONY OFFICIANT - Perhaps I'm biased here, but I have seen and have heard many horror stories about ministers and other officiants who do a poor job. Calling the couple by the wrong names, leaving out the bridal kiss, speaking too low or too long, are just some of the problems. Weddings are not the easiest things to do. Experience can make a difference.

Do this: Use an experienced wedding minister or officiant!  An experienced wedding officiant will know what do when unexpected things happen. Did the best man lose the ring; what to do now?
Perhaps there is someone very special to you as a couple that you want to perform your ceremony even though they don't have much wedding experience. In this case, spend a lot of time with them going over exactly what you want in the ceremony. Make sure any inexperienced officiant is at the rehearsal and go through the ceremony a couple of times.

 Brenda M. Owen Experienced Wedding Officiant, Minister -

Avoid these 5 pitfalls in planning your wedding and you will decrease your odds of wedding bloopers ruining your wedding and your memories.  

About the Author:
Ralph Griggs is a life-long non-denominational minister in Nashville, Tenn.